Week 15
Days 99–105 · Justice
Day 99
Forecast the people
You already know who you'll meet today. Plan for it.
You know before you clock in. The supervisor who micromanages the close. The coworker who takes credit and gives none. The customer who arrives looking for a fight. The shift lead who answers every question with a sigh. None of them is a… Read Day 99
Day 100
They got it wrong, not evil
The person who annoyed you isn't your enemy. They're just wrong.
The driver cuts the line at the loading dock. The new hire breaks the thing you told them twice not to touch. A nurse on the next shift leaves the cart a mess again. The fast verdict writes itself: they're careless, they're lazy, they don't… Read Day 100
Day 101
Look past the behavior
The rude customer has a life you can't see.
A regular snaps at the barista over a drink that was made right. A dispatcher barks an order with no please anywhere in it. A patient's family takes their fear out on the aide who's only trying to help. The behavior is real, and it stings.… Read Day 101
Day 102
Name one good thing in each of them
Before the meeting, find the one thing each person does well.
It's easy to walk into the morning huddle already annoyed. The whole crew shrinks down to a list of faults: he's slow, she interrupts, that one's always late. Carry that list into the room and you'll find exactly what you brought. Marcus… Read Day 102
Day 103
The coworkers you have, not the ones you want
You don't get to pick your crew. You get to choose how you treat them.
Here's the hard one, the center of the whole week. You didn't choose these people. The schedule did, or the hiring manager, or just the luck of which warehouse was hiring the month you needed work. Some of them you'd never spend a minute… Read Day 103
Day 104
The relative who rubs you wrong
Off the clock, the difficult one is family. Be the bigger person anyway.
Clock out, and the difficult people don't disappear. They just change names. The brother-in-law who needles you at every dinner. The aunt with a comment about everything. The neighbor who lets his dog into your yard and acts wounded when… Read Day 104
Day 105
Meet them as your own kind
One week, one move: everyone you meet is a person with reason.
Look back at the week. You forecast the difficult ones instead of letting them ambush you. You traded the enemy frame for "they got it wrong." You looked past the snap to the person under it, named the good in the people you'd written off,… Read Day 105
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